Every mum of multiples takes multi-tasking to a whole new level. We strive to give each baby undivided attention, but sometimes it’s impossible. Sometimes I scoff at things that so called experts say; these experts often have no children, let alone twins, or more! I read that twins will be traumatised if they don’t have one on one time with their mum, but I dispute this whole heartedly. We were a team, the boys and I, and everything we did, we did together. On weekends and in the evening, Dad joined our team and there has certainly been no detrimental effects to date. ( Boys are 20 now) Once the boys began school, I often had people telling me they should be separated but we took each year as it came and asked the teacher’s advice. Neither twin was dominant, nor dependant on the other being there, so they remained together all through school. I was also told boys would be rough ( not true) and that in Year 8 or 9 would lose interest in school ( also not true). It is also said that there is a definite twin pecking order but I always saw my two as a complimentary pair, each with their own strengths. Both have achieved great results and both are extremely proud of each other; one is studying journalism, film and screen and the other Commerce and Law. The truth is, having twins has given me superpowers; it is not a walk in the park but it will transform you into a warrior and I wouldn’t change any of it.
Twin mums have to work hard but in return you receive double the love.
“Are they twins?
No, they are triplets. I just leave the ugly one at home.”