Becoming a parent for the first time is like moving to live on a whole different planet. You are told what to expect when you are pregnant , and think you know how to deal with it- after all, how hard can it be compared to your stressful job? But then baby is born ( or two),and life as you know it ceases to exist, reality hits and you realise just how naive you were and how overwhelming it actually all is. Everything revolves around the new little person in your life and you will find yourself doing things you previously judged other parents harshly for. You give up all your cherished ideals of believing your child will never be bribed into being quiet, and that you will never resent getting up early. In reality you will do what works and you will fantasise about sleep. You will kiss your freedom goodbye, no more living on a whim, no more being who you are – you have simply morphed into Mum.
Go easy on yourself and focus on what matters; a sink full of dishes or a dusty house does not make you a bad mum. Snuggle with your little one as much as you like; after all the dust will still be there when your baby has grown. Mothering is extremely intense and unrelenting and it is important to have some “time out”, no matter how short. Know that there will be good days and not so good days, it’s a fact of life.
The best advice I always give new mums is to listen to all advice, ask the questions you want answers to, follow your instincts and do what works for you. Love them a lot, keep one end clean and the other fed and don’t worry about the small stuff…
The only place you can experience heaven and hell at the same time.”