Too often we don’t realise what we have until it is gone. Too stubborn to admit we are wrong, we let the most foolish things tear us apart. Everybody should have a large cemetery in their backyard in which to bury the faults of their loved ones and friends. Nobody is perfect ( except me!) and we all have our failings, and our true friends will accept these for what they are. Life is too short to carry a grudge unless you have been savagely wronged. Sadly, I have lost touch with some close friends in previous years, and in one case my husband and I aren’t even sure why! It used to hurt, but now I am realistic and simply enjoy the memories of our many fun times together. I have come to realise that I can’t change things and for whatever reason, “it is what it is.” On the flip side, recently I have reconnected with friends from long ago and it’s great to reminisce with them about times in the past.
Some people will certainly rattle your chains, (often work colleagues) and whilst I despise a colleague of mine for her petty actions, I have chosen to ignore her, realising that she is not worthy of my anger. In my world she doesn’t exist and I’m quite content with that.
If you want to find out who’s a true friend, screw things up or go through a challenging time and see who sticks around. True friendship means understanding, not necessarily agreement; it means forgiveness and not forgetting and it means the memories last, even if contact is lost. Good friends are like stars. You don’t always see them but you know that they are always there. I am lucky to be blessed with many close friends from all facets of my life, (some having been in my life for nearly 50 years) and I treasure, and mean to keep them all.
“Do not remove a fly from your friend’s forehead with a hatchet.”