Last night I watched a heart rending story of how one Australian mum and her adopted son searched for his birth mother. At 5 years of age, when shopping with his mum, he got lost at a crowded market in Manila, in the Philippines. After being picked up by a kind taxi driver and taken to an orphanage where he spent the next eighteen months, he was adopted by an Australian couple.
In a country with 100 million people, and no name to search for, the task of finding his birth mother 30 years later seemed impossible. Then the unthinkable happened and he found a woman who had lost her son in that same marketplace. Unfortunately however, DNA tests proved she was not his mother. With tears streaming down my face I watched the woman being told it wasn’t her son. The story is so similar to the movie Lion, based on a true story, in which a small Indian boy gets lost then adopted, taken to a distant country ( Australia) and then many years later searches for his birth mother. It made me realise just how many mothers there must be in this world suffering the same fate and my heart breaks for them all. The love of a mother for her child is undeniably the strongest emotion in the human soul. I couldn’t begin to imagine the pain of going on after losing your child; every day you would be looking, hoping and wondering where they were. Strength isn’t about how much you can handle before you break, it’s about how much you can handle after you break and how you manage to keep living with the pain and grief.
My tears then turned to a flood of happiness when, after enlisting the help of a major television personality in the Philippines, his birth mother was found and they were reunited. Thirty years of suffering and her wildest dream is realised and she once again hugs her son.
Such a beautiful moment. Two months later he took his Mum to meet his birth mother and again my tears flowed. It was so poignant watching their meeting, each grateful to the other for different reasons, while their son watched on, tears running down his cheeks.
His dream has become finally become reality and he has two Mums…
“Successful mothers are not the ones that have never struggled. They are the ones that never give up, despite the struggles.”